Quit Smoking Tips – How to Deal With Your Conflicting Desire to Smoke
As a smoker wanting to stop smoking, you are in a state of conflict. On one hand, you have an addictive desire to smoke. On the other, you want to stop satisfying it by smoking.
Stopping smoking and staying stopped depend on how you resolve this conflict.
As soon as you have smoked your last cigarette with the intention to quit, the conflict you feel could be deep and last for several hours. You may question yourself over and over again, asking yourself if you really do want to stop smoking, and whether this really is the right time to do it. You may spend hours trying to figure out a good excuse to justify smoking for just a little bit longer, or just one more…
Don’t be surprised by this: it’s all part of the process. The way through this conflict is to experience it and resolve it, and not avoid it in any way. cbd hannover
In order to resolve this conflict, you simply ask yourself this one, basic question: “Am I willing to accept my desire to smoke in order to stop smoking and stay stopped?” In other words, here you are feeling uncomfortable and unsatisfied because you want a cigarette but aren’t smoking one; do you think it’s worth it to you to feel this way in order to break free from a life of smoking?
Out of Sight, but Not Out of Mind
Some people avoid resolving this conflict by ignoring their desire and quite often feel confident that they have conquered their addiction. One of the more unhelpful things about repression is that, at the time you use it, it appears to be effective, and is therefore rarely perceived as being a problem.
You can see from your own experience that it is a problem, though, if you have ever stopped before. The first cigarette you smoked when you went back to smoking was preceded by a desire to smoke, even though you may have only been dimly aware of that desire at the time.
A friend of mine, James, who attended a quit smoking program, gave an ideal example of this. He told me that at his last attempt, three years ago, he decided to stop smoking at the same time that he was going to redecorate his house. In other words, his strategy was to avoid as much of the difficulty of stopping smoking as he could by keeping busy painting and hanging paper.
He threw his cigarettes away and got rid of anything that might remind him of the smoker he used to be. The plan appeared to work and he managed to stop smoking with very little difficulty. He stayed stopped for a month, with smoking totally forgotten, until something happened that took him by surprise.
He told me that he was at the station where he commuted to work each day and went to the kiosk where he always used to buy his cigarettes. He asked for chewing gum, but the man behind the counter, recognizing him, handed him his usual packet of cigarettes.